Theological Differences and Marrriage

[The Berean]

I am getting married on April 30th to a wonderful Godly woman. I am very excited and looking forward to my wedding! :straight:

One thing that I have thought about recently is that our theological beliefs are quite different. She is “charismatic” in her beliefs and I am much more conservative. I don’t see it as a major issue but I can see where there may be conflict when we have children. I just wanted to know how other married couples dealt with any theological differences in their marriage.

The Berean

[Turbo]

The Sibbie and I worked out most of our theological differences before we were married. It was easy, really. All I had to do was convince her that I was right on every topic in which we disagreed. :D


Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22

[Freak]

I am getting married on April 30th to a wonderful Godly women. I am very excited and looking forward to my wedding! :straight:

One thing that I have thought about recently is that our theological beliefs are quite different. She is “charismatic” in her beliefs and I am much more conservative. I don’t see it as a major issue but I can see where there may be conflict when we have children. I just wanted to know how other married couples dealt with any theological differences in their marriage.

The Berean Berean, one can be "conservative" and "charismatic." In fact, most "charismatic" believers, I know of, are quite conservative.

The key is, do you both agree on the essentials of the historic Christian faith?

Congratulations!!! But know this...

"But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this."

[Lovejoy]

I am, in theory, a conservative charismatic. I guess. It seems to work out. BTW, I am a firm believer that the man in the pastor of the home, and as long as you can manage that, I don't see that you should have a problem. Still, best of luck, and God bless!

[The Berean]

Berean, one can be "conservative" and "charismatic." In fact, most "charismatic" believers, I know of, are quite conservative.

The key is, do you both agree on the essentials of the historic Christian faith?

Congratulations!!! But know this...

"But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this."

Freak,

I guess I should be more specific. I am conservative in terms of what we call the "gifts of the Spirit". I am not a cessionist by any means. However, I have witnessed many people speaking in pure jibberish and claim that that is the Biblical gift of tongues. I have issue with this. I do not hold to Word of Faith teachings either. This idea about our words have creative power from my study of Scripture is not supported by Scripture. Our main differences comes down whether the "gifts of the Spirit are nomative in the Christian life. My wife to be says yes, I am not so sure.

We both hold to the essentails to the Historical Biblical Christian faith.

[The Berean]

The Sibbie and I worked out most of our theological differences before we were married. It was easy, really. All I had to do was convince her that I was right on every topic in which we disagreed. :D


Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22

:darwinsm:

[Lucky]

It was easy, really. All I had to do was convince her that I was right on every topic in which we disagreed.
*takes notes*

[Lovejoy]

*takes notes*
I hope those are notes on internet sarcasm, or some day we may have one :dead: :lucky:


Or at least a perpetually single one.

[Freak]

Freak,

I guess I should be more specific. I am conservative in terms of what we call the "gifts of the Spirit". I am not a cessionist by any means. However, I have witnessed many people speaking in pure jibberish and claim that that is the Biblical gift of tongues. Most of the "tongues" one hears are jibberish.

I do not hold to Word of Faith teachings either.
Does your bride?

This idea about our words have creative power from my study of Scripture is not supported by Scripture. I concur.

Our main differences comes down whether the "gifts of the Spirit are nomative in the Christian life. My wife to be says yes, I am not so sure. Sounds like your bride to be is a wonderful woman who loves Jesus

We both hold to the essentails to the Historical Biblical Christian faith. This is imperative and glad to hear!!! What more do you need?

[swanca99]

In the interim between now and when you have children, you might want to discuss what you should do once the children come along.

I've been married for almost 31 years to a woman who has virtually always been in agreement with me on even the most detailed doctrines...and it's STILL been rough. The current divorce rate, even amoung Christians, indicates that marriage is, well, a lot of work.

I'm not charismatic, so my advice would be to allow the children to be attend a God-honoring but non-charismatic church, and let them evaluate the charismatic movement from that position. But your intended wife may not agree to that.

I knew a couple where the husband was of Plymouth Brethren leanings, and the wife was an orthodox Presbyterian. To the best of my knowledge, they are still married, but they never went to church together, and she did not even seem to want to acknowledge any of his friends from the Bretheren church. Please be careful not to let your doctrinal differences lead you to the point where you do not function well as a married couple.

I wish you all the best, Brother. And remember...the first year is the worst, no matter how long you've know each other beforehand. God acknowledged this when He gave the law to Israel. And I can attest, based on my own experience and that of countless friends, that He KNEW what He was talking about!

[Freak]

And remember...the first year is the worst, no matter how long you've know each other beforehand! Not for us! The first year was a very enjoyable year. It doesn't have to be the "worse."

[The Berean]

Most of the "tongues" one hears are jibberish.


Does your bride?

I concur.

Sounds like your bride to be is a wonderful woman who loves Jesus

This is imperative and glad to hear!!! What more do you need?
Yes, my fiance is a wonderful woman that loves our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. She is very much a prayerful woman and a worshipper. She plays piano for our church's worship team. She does hold to some Word Of Faith teachings. I once teased her saying that I guess I'll the "legalist" of the house and she'll can be the "heretic". :darwinsm:

[The Berean]

In the interim between now and when you have children, you might want to discuss what you should do once the children come along.

I've been married for almost 31 years to a woman who has virtually always been in agreement with me on even the most detailed doctrines...and it's STILL been rough. The current divorce rate, even amoung Christians, indicates that marriage is, well, a lot of work.

I'm not charismatic, so my advice would be to allow the children to be attend a God-honoring but non-charismatic church, and let them evaluate the charismatic movement from that position. But your intended wife may not agree to that.

I knew a couple where the husband was of Plymouth Brethren leanings, and the wife was an orthodox Presbyterian. To the best of my knowledge, they are still married, but they never went to church together, and she did not even seem to want to acknowledge any of his friends from the Bretheren church. Please be careful not to let your doctrinal differences lead you to the point where you do not function well as a married couple.

I wish you all the best, Brother. And remember...the first year is the worst, no matter how long you've know each other beforehand. God acknowledged this when He gave the law to Israel. And I can attest, based on my own experience and that of countless friends, that He KNEW what He was talking about!

Thnaks for the encouragment! :thumb:

[Lucky]

I hope those are notes on internet sarcasm, or some day we may have one :dead: :lucky:

Or at least a perpetually single one.
I'm not sure which is worse.

[Freak]

She does hold to some Word Of Faith teachings. Like?

I once teased her saying that I guess I'll the "legalist" of the house and she'll can be the "heretic". :darwinsm: :eek:

[Turbo]

I hope those are notes on internet sarcasm.
Sarcasm? :confused:


:idea: Oh! Yeah! ...Sarcasm!





:noid:

[The Berean]

Like?

:eek:
"Name it and claim" theology mainly. Recently, a friend of her's had us meet someone. This someone told her that she needs to receive the "annointing of wealth" from the Lord. I can't seem to find the "annointing of wealth" in my Bible. To my sweetie's credit she she didn't buy that idea :BRAVO:

[ebenz47037]

I am getting married on April 30th to a wonderful Godly woman. I am very excited and looking forward to my wedding! :straight:

One thing that I have thought about recently is that our theological beliefs are quite different. She is “charismatic” in her beliefs and I am much more conservative. I don’t see it as a major issue but I can see where there may be conflict when we have children. I just wanted to know how other married couples dealt with any theological differences in their marriage.

The Berean

I am a pentecostal who married a lutheran man. I don't know about your fiance. But, for me, this was very easy. I believe that the husband is the head of the household. On the few things that we did disagree on (baptizing infants was our main disagreement), we ended up discussing the issues. Sometimes, he would see that I could be right and sometimes I would see that he was right. And, sometimes, I would defer to his judgement because he was the head of the household. We didn't argue at all. And, when it came to baptizing infants, although I still don't believe it is necessary or useful, I deferred to his judgement. It ended up that we didn't need to worry about it because we didn't have any children together. But, I would have allowed his judgement to stand if we had.

It makes for a much more peaceful, easier life if the wife allows her husband his God-given role as head of the household.

[Lighthouse]

I am getting married on April 30th to a wonderful Godly woman. I am very excited and looking forward to my wedding! :straight:

One thing that I have thought about recently is that our theological beliefs are quite different. She is “charismatic” in her beliefs and I am much more conservative. I don’t see it as a major issue but I can see where there may be conflict when we have children. I just wanted to know how other married couples dealt with any theological differences in their marriage.

The Berean
I know a girl who doesn't think that kind of relationship would ever work. She's a Charismatic, and I used to be. And she thinks we could never function as more than friends because of our disagreements. Of course, we're not friends anymore, but there's a set of completely different reasons for that. Although, her indoctrination may have played a part...:think:

[Delmar]

Not for us! The first year was a very enjoyable year. It doesn't have to be the "worse." I quite agree! Every marriage is different. You have no idea what trials you will face at what point in your marriage.

[The Berean]

I know a girl who doesn't think that kind of relationship would ever work. She's a Charismatic, and I used to be. And she thinks we could never function as more than friends because of our disagreements. Of course, we're not friends anymore, but there's a set of completely different reasons for that. Although, her indoctrination may have played a part...:think:

What "flavor" of charismatic was she?

[Redfin]

I just wanted to know how other married couples dealt with any theological differences in their marriage.

Before you say "I do," find out whether she believes the prohibition on divorce trumps the prohibition on murder, or vice versa! :noway:

Seriously, congratulations! :thumb:

[Poly]

When we got married my husband was charasmatic and I was a Calvinist. That'll make for some interesting debates. :freak:

[Lighthouse]

What "flavor" of charismatic was she?
Non-denominational, but many people in her hometown believe the church is Pentecostal.

[The Berean]

When we got married my husband was charasmatic and I was a Calvinist. That'll make for some interesting debates. :freak:

Wow! Yes, that would make for some interesting discussions...

[keypurr]

Congrats to The Berean. In December it will be fifty years for my bride and me. She has always been a Lutheran. Me, I've been a Baptist, Lutheran and now a lone ranger. Our daughters were taught both her faith and mine. Now they have decided for themselves. They are over 45 so I guess it is OK to let them do it. Any way the secret is respect for each others thoughts. God love thoes who love him. Each may express it differently, but it is still love for him.
God Bless you both.

[Zimfan]

I'm not sure which is worse.

Err...c. all of the above?

[billwald]

The difference seems to be more financial than spiritual. Either the charismatic churches attract people who are are not able to make good financial decisions or the chraismatic culture produces people who are are "to heavenly minded to be and earthly good."