Anne-Marie Ambert, a sociology professor at York University, said her review of recent research shows that couples who lived together before getting married face as much as double the risk of separaration as those who lived apart.....
''We used to hear the term trial marriage, but it just isn't that. If living together was really a trial marriage, you would expect that those who lived together before would have a better relationship when they're married ... and therefore would divorce less,'' Prof. Ambert said.....
She cited a 2000 Canadian study that found, in the 20-to-30-year-old age group, a 63% separation rate for women whose first relationship was co-habitational compared with 33% among those who married before moving in.....
- Women who cohabited before marriage report a greater incidence of premarital violence than those who did not cohabit, which in turn leads to more marital violence....
''Who's going to listen to the message these studies give? Let's face it, nobody is,'' she said. ''The trend is that we're going to see more cohabitation.''
Pretty well know statistics. Like she said, too bad nobody listens to them.
Yeah, Dr. Laura has made this well-known for years.
But it's not necessarily a cause and efffect thing. It may not be that living together causes people to be more likely to separate. It's much more likely that people who are prone to live together are also more prone to separate. So listening to the stats wouldn't help any. They'd still be as likely to divorce whether they shacked up first or not.
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Relationships often don't last regardless of the circumstances, married or otherwise
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Indeed, it's a bit of a crap shoot.
Many relationships run into problems because they're initially formed in the fog of raging hormones, the participants mistaking the urge to mate for genuine long-term affection.
After the novelty wears off, things start to fall apart.
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That is often true.
Also, it takes a few years to really get to know somebody. Many people enter marriage before they know the other person well enough and of course, the same holds true for the other person.
I say stay single until you're at least 35. Get the 'fun stuff' out of your system and then start looking for someone who is compatible.
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That is often true.
Also, it takes a few years to really get to know somebody. Many people enter marriage before they know the other person well enough and of course, the same holds true for the other person.
I say stay single until you're at least 35. Get the 'fun stuff' out of your system and then start looking for someone who is compatible.
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September 28th, 2005, 11:06 AM
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That is often true.
Also, it takes a few years to really get to know somebody. Many people enter marriage before they know the other person well enough and of course, the same holds true for the other person.
I say stay single until you're at least 35. Get the 'fun stuff' out of your system and then start looking for someone who is compatible.
Good luck.
right on, i was planning on 30, but maybe i should push it back a few more years
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right on, i was planning on 30, but maybe i should push it back a few more years
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