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toldailytopic: Arranged marriage: good idea, bad idea? - March 22nd, 2012, 09:50 AM
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March 22nd, 2012, 10:07 AM
Well, I have been thinking about getting me one of them mail order Chinese brides.



   
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March 22nd, 2012, 10:18 AM
Bad idea ...

IMO, arranged marriages are more about the parents wishing to control who their child marries and brings into the family rather than compatibility and love.
   
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March 22nd, 2012, 10:40 AM
It depends upon your criteria.
For instance:
If it's lower divorce rates, then arranged marriage is a good idea.
If it's freedom of choice, then arranged marriage is a bad idea.

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March 22nd, 2012, 10:56 AM
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Arranged marriage: good idea, bad idea?
Beats an unarranged marriage?

Parents should know as well as the child a partnership that will be successful - if not better. And one need not expect that the parents will be dictatorial in such a role.

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March 22nd, 2012, 10:57 AM
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If it's freedom of choice, then arranged marriage is a bad idea.
How does arranging a marriage limit one's ability to choose?




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March 22nd, 2012, 10:59 AM
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How does arranging a marriage limit one's ability to choose?
If the person they are marrying is *chosen* FOR them (and they have no say in the matter), that is not exactly free choice.
   
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If the person they are marrying is *chosen* FOR them (and they have no say in the matter), that is not exactly free choice.
You need not expect that the arrangement will be by dictatorial parents.

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Who else would make the arrangements?
   
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Who else would make the arrangements?
Parents who care enough to ensure their child marries well.




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Unless of course that person is not compatible with their own child ...
Which do you think will generally be more successful:
The parents and the child deciding together, or
The child choosing without help?




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Which do you think will generally be more successful:
The parents and the child deciding together, or
The child choosing without help?
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March 22nd, 2012, 11:22 AM
I think that, in principle, arranged marriage is probably a better way of doing things than we presently do them. However, if arranged marriage is to work, then there have to be a number of qualifications/exceptions to it as a general rule. For example, if male A is arranged for woman B and man C is arranged for woman D, but A and D have been in love with each other since they were youths...? Clearly, in that case, the aforementioned arrangements should be dissolved in favor of a marriage between A and D.

Spoken another way: whereas arranged marriage is probably superior to what we presently practice now, nonetheless, there should be limitations to just how binding the arrangements are, and it should leave itself open to the choices/preferences of those who are being arranged to be married.

Especially revolting to me is the idea of arranged marriages for economic/social utility (especially to the degree that woman A can't marry man B because they differ too sharply in economic/social condition).

Furthermore, there should be exceptions for people who simply don't want to get married (for example, those who would prefer to enter monastic orders).




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