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Obviously they miss out on something,But I think they gain so much more.
I think at least for the early years 1 parents at home is very valuable for the children.
Hard to do nowdays though.
I understand it can be hard, but why is it hard? It's hard because we are a greedy society who wants it ALL. We've had times when my husband was working 40-50 hours at a fast food delivery place. Money was tight, we had one car, we didn't do any extra things, but we had food on the table & a roof over our head. We rarely went out for dinner and when we did, it consisted of McDonald's dollar menu You work hard, you sacrifice and you do it because you realize there's a bigger picture than what the world wants for you. We're not just raising up kids, we're caring for eternal souls. And that's what should matter most.
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You've called me into life
And I was under Your wrath
Now through the cross I'm reconciled
As for "passing down religious and moral values," I would think teaching the child to draw conclusions using his/her own reasoning ability would be a higher priority than slamming political views down his/her throat.
You're making assumptions which have no basis in fact. That you can make a political inference from what I said shows your own lack of reasoning ability...and reading comprehension.
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The reason the KKK still exists is because parents "passed down" their religious and moral values to their children without ever giving their children a chance to be rational, thinking individuals who make choices and prioritize values for themselves.
Projecting? Otherwise I have no idea what role a Protestant, Democrat KKK would play in my Catholic, Republican family.
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Should we bring a child into this situation, in which the two of us barely have time to be SPOUSES, much less PARENTS?
Is that a rhetorical question? Because if I answer, you won't like it much.
Not sure where you are in life now, but I earn good money and were only just making it with one of us working.
I don't see how people on low wages can do it anymore, its tragic but that is where it is.
We definitely are not making minimum wage like we used to back then, we've been very blessed. It's hard, I won't say that it isn't, but I think it's a lot more doable than people think.
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May 11th, 2012, 02:37 PM
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You're making assumptions which have no basis in fact. That you can make a political inference from what I said shows your own lack of reasoning ability...and reading comprehension.
You seem to have taken my post as a personal attack.
It was not.
I was talking about the overall concept of "passing down" moral or religious ideas, as opposed to presenting one's personal convictions and letting the child choose for him/herself.
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Projecting? Otherwise I have no idea what role a Protestant, Democrat KKK would play in my Catholic, Republican family.
Again, my post was not a personal attack on your parenting.
Those who have forced their racist, bigoted ideas on their children have by that act perpetuated outdated prejudice which should have faded with the passage of time.
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Is that a rhetorical question? Because if I answer, you won't like it much.
Let it all out.
Vaya con Dios.
Dieu est l'amour.
Allah bidabbir.
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Certainly they miss out on many things as do those who work outside the home. There are pros and cons to be weighed in every decision. As a culture, the number of children being raised by people other than their parents is a sign most telling of our greed and shortsightedness.
Scripturally and historically, the primary role of women is in the home. God even uses the phrase "keepers at home" Titus 2:5 in enumerating the qualities to be learned from older women by the younger. However none of this precludes the fact that practically our culture sometimes imposes on us less than ideal necessities and for some women to stay at home with their children is impossible.
It's interesting that in Proverbs 31 the qualities of a virtuous woman include an "entrepreneurial" spirit and applaud diligence in business as a positive trait.
In the final analysis, as with most things, the motivation behind the decision must be considered; the woman who chooses to work outside the home in lieu of raising her children with the motivation of a better home, car, pool, etc. is certainly imparting to her children a legacy of self-centerdness, however the woman who chooses to stay home with her children but is lazy and doesn't maintain habits and housekeeping worthy of a conscientious parent would probably do her children a favor by getting a job.
"The very tradition, teaching, & faith of the Catholic Church from the beginning was preached by the Apostles & preserved by the Fathers. On this the Church was founded..." ~ St. Athanasius (4th cent.)
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May 11th, 2012, 04:58 PM
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Your summary link leads to a jpg of the book.
I thought it was just my computer!
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May 11th, 2012, 05:13 PM
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Your summary link leads to a jpg of the book.
Fixed it. Thanks for the heads-up.
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I think the reason a number of people believe the mother needs to work is simply because they have misunderstood and misappropriated the word "need."
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May 11th, 2012, 06:19 PM
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Obama and the rest of the liberals in this country are constantly bullying women into thinking that if you don't go to college and you don't have a career you are somehow missing out on something. They make women think that if you want to be a stay-at-home mom you are a lesser person.
What's wrong with aspiring to be a homemaker?
I have an advanced degree, and had a great career. Then I had a son, and that degree and that career didn't mean squat anymore. All I could see was that beautiful baby. So I stayed home until he started school, then only worked during his school hours. Sick days, holidays, snow days and summer vacations were spent being a full time mom and homemaker. My child never rode the school bus, and I never missed a school program, ball game, church program or anything else he participated in. I saw his first steps, heard his first words, sat by his bed during long nights of childhood illnesses. He never had a babysitter other than my parents. It was the best time of my life.
Now that he is grown, I have my career back - but I would give anything to go back to those years, when what I did really mattered.
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You work hard, you sacrifice and you do it because you realize there's a bigger picture than what the world wants for you. We're not just raising up kids, we're caring for eternal souls. And that's what should matter most.
May 11th, 2012, 04:38 PM
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