glorydaz
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Intojoy? Yeah, maybe that's why he acts a bit "fermented", if you know what I mean.
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Intojoy? Yeah, maybe that's why he acts a bit "fermented", if you know what I mean.
Absolutely. I can always ask for what I want--to be treated with human dignity. I won't always get it back, but my concern is not about others and their thinking. I will continue to try to treat others as I myself want to be treated.
If you can show how I can say "Please don't treat me that way" without sounding like a lecture, then let me know.
Some people have difficulty respecting others. I cannot make anyone respect me or change their behavior. All I can do is let people know I need respect when I am acting respectfully toward them. But if letting someone know I don't like what they are saying or doing is disrespectful to them, that is their problem.
You need to figure out who "owns" the problem. If a parent gets frustrated because their child doesn't pick up after herself, it's not the child that owns the problem. It is the parent. It is the parent who is angry and frustrated and actually has the problem.
The child is not having a problem at all.
By "fast and loose" are you really saying you disagree with my interpretation? Everything in the Bible is an interpretation and everyone who reads it makes their own interpretation.
I have a right to mine as do you have a right to your own. That's what TOL is all about: the exchange of interpretations and thoughts. Better to admit to ourselves that other people have different ideas, beliefs and thinking. We can be different without trying to scapegoat and blame the other.
Playing the hypocrite is our own choice. I don't like to run into hypocrisy but I can confront it plainly and honestly in ways that do not condemn the hypocrite. Hopefully.
I don't see how anyone can ever avoid "taking things personally."
We are persons who have personality. We know how we feel and how others' words and actions can affect us. It's all a matter of being open enough to recognize our feelings of injury.
I use psychological aikido. The martial art of aikido is the only one that deals with an opponent without harming them. I let things go by me for the most part, and I use aikido techniques to let that energy that passes by me to work for me and the other person.
I prefer "finishing business" with others in the moment instead of waiting while they are on their death bed. My life is simpler that way.
If you think I am "just too sensitive" then that is absolutely okay with me. It has to be. But it seems like you are unable or unwilling to treat me as if I am.
The meaning of our message is found in the response it elicits. And if you don't like the response, try changing what you are doing instead of blaming the other person. And if what you do does not change the response, then do something different. And if not, do something else.
glorydaz
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You do....cause I'm done wasting my time with you. :wave:
Good luck with that.
What happened to your baby picture?
Intojoy? Yeah, maybe that's why he acts a bit "fermented", if you know what I mean.
Yes. I think I get your jest.
Intojoy, why don't you stop annoying yourself?
Those 3 pics you put up don't look anything like me. You'll have to take my word for it.
Hopefully, it's a Rip Van Winkle type of rest? Then, you
can wake up refreshed in a brave new world about 100 year's
from now. Hopefully, by then, you won't be able to find a
Laptop.
I feel I'm wasting your time on you.
And you have free will.
To me you seem a bit averse to confronting your own contradictions or paying attention to the admonishions and teachings of Jesus.
Perhaps your best strategy should be to just withdraw. But please know that I understand the good intentions behind your behavior towards me.
We all do the best we can.
Luckily, I learned early on that we cannot change others, no matter what we say or do. Any change has to be initiated by them.
But I am healthy enough to let others know what is acceptable or not according to my "whim at the moment."
Using my attitude first and foremost, I was able to confront a gang of drunken bikers who were setting off loud fireworks. My wife and I could not go to sleep and our two dogs were upset. After our confrontation, they stopped the celebration and went home after 10 minutes.
Was it my words and actions that changed their minds. I have no idea. But I like to think so.
It's a bit like "psychological aikido." It is the only martial art that deals with one's opponent without harming them. It's the closest thing I have found to "turning the other cheek." I also use nonviolent communication as developed by Marshal Rosenberg.
I am simply a violent and cruel person learning to be nonviolent and respectful towards others.
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