Check out this thread & see if your questions are satisfied:
http://theologyonline.com/showthread.php?122698-The-Sovereignty-of-God&highlight=
Thank you. That answered my questions. i see a major fallacy in Calvinistic thought in the following quote taken from your opening post on that thread.
This boils down to Reformers believing Gods Sovereignty is absolute, while other faiths believe the sovereignty of God is limited. There are various ideas about these limits; most centering around the free will of man.
OK. Let me see if I can explain what I'm seeing clearly. To the Calvinist God's sovereignty is so absolute God must control everything. At least that is how I see the phrase Gods Sovereignty is absolute. This, according to Calvinistic thought, means God must control all things or else He not sovereign. However, if we look at the definition of sovereignty this is some form of sovereignty that is different than how the dictionary defines sovereignty.
The Collaborative International Dictionary of English v.0.48 (gcide)
Sovereignty Sov"er*eign*ty, n.; pl. Sovereignties. [OE.
soverainetee, OF. sovrainet['e], F. souverainet['e].]
The quality or state of being sovereign, or of being a
sovereign; the exercise of, or right to exercise, supreme
power; dominion; sway; supremacy; independence; also, that
which is sovereign; a sovereign state; as, Italy was formerly
divided into many sovereignties.
[1913 Webster]
Notice that included in the definition of sovereignty is the right to exercise supreme supreme power. Nowhere in Calvinistic thought do I see that idea expressed. Let me explain that before you say it is. The right to exercise power does not mean it must always be exercised. The best leaders, of who God is the by far the greatest, have always understood that it is far better to lead by example than to drive people. In Calvinistic thought God always drives for He must always control everything. That is the opposite of love.
The other aspect of the Calvinistic concept of sovereignty is that if God cannot choose whether or not to exercise his power of sovereignty He is, in fact, controlled by His power/sovereignty rather than exercising it according to His own desire. He ends up being a slave to His own power if He cannot choose to not control everything.
I've seen Lon use the example of fatherhood to explain his idea of the lack of choice. How much of a father is a man who has to control everything his children do? I can tell you by personal experience. He is no father at all. He's a controlling nightmare. He allows no choice other than His choice no matter how his children view things. He makes no effort to understand his children he just attempts to drive them where he thinks they ought to go in life. That is not the God of scripture, but that is the God described by Calvinism but even that seems to not be God's own choice, but one made by His power/sovereignty.