Male-Female questions

[Interplanner]

Another area of research for me. The best observation I've ever heard in 20 years of following such an area was on admiration:

"He wants her admiration;
She wants to admire him."

The wisdom of this line is already in the few passages on marriage in the NT; Eph 5. The reason respect is laid upon the women there in Eph 5 is because, unlike the male input, the woman's verbalization of respect can reset most situations into a positive direction.

If you have a question or two along that line, let's hear it!

 

[Interplanner]

One book out there on this topic is LOVE AND RESPECT by Emerson Eggritts. I learned recently it was used at a church's couples study. It seems to have been out a couple decades.

 

[patrick jane]

One book out there on this topic is LOVE AND RESPECT by Emerson Eggritts. I learned recently it was used at a church's couples study. It seems to have been out a couple decades.

I think most women do a good job of admiring and respecting their man.

 

[Interplanner]

I think most women do a good job of admiring and respecting their man.

But I have found many cases where the man's accomplishments are 'never enough' which is why the book was written and probably why Eph 5 is gender-specific on this. There is something about the woman's verbalization of that respect that does not have a counterpart in the man.

 

[Rusha]

I think most women do a good job of admiring and respecting their man.

I think that women who are treated with respect will normally respect and admire their man.

 

[Interplanner]

I think that women who are treated with respect will normally respect and admire their man.

And yet one of the most common dilemmas found in society and culture is the unadmirable man and the unadmiring woman in his life. Or he may be admirable but she has chosen not to.

In the movie THE PAINTED VEIL, the young wife of a microbiologist who has been asked to save an entire province in China from cholera is unable to appreciate what he has too offer, or how much he puts into it, and she has an affair. However, by the end of the story she has learned how noble her husband is, and she learns to admire him.

It is still tragic because he dies in the battle.

But at least we were not fed the usual myth of Hollywood that the other relationship was the answer.

The insight of the Eggritt book and Eph 5 remain intact as the answer.

 

[Interplanner]

Because of that 'artefact' of human nature built into Eph 5 (the woman's verbalization of respect), I cannot leave the other sexual positions found in the NT. It validates the exclusive place of sex as only in male-female marriage.

 

[Interplanner]

Do men demean wives if the wives are not as professionally accomplished as they are?

 

[PureX]

Another area of research for me. The best observation I've ever heard in 20 years of following such an area was on admiration:

"He wants her admiration;
She wants to admire him."

The wisdom of this line is already in the few passages on marriage in the NT; Eph 5. The reason respect is laid upon the women there in Eph 5 is because, unlike the male input, the woman's verbalization of respect can reset most situations into a positive direction.

If you have a question or two along that line, let's hear it!

That's a typically misogynistic quote coming from a grossly misogynistic ideology.

 

[Rusha]

Do men demean wives if the wives are not as professionally accomplished as they are?

No ... it would only be demeaning IF the *man* in question used his accomplishment as an excuse to disregard or belittle his wife ...