jack jackson said:I don't think it's selfish to want a break from your kids. Nearly every parent wants one, whether they admit it or not. It's true. It's good for your sanity. My kids were unplanned but I love them and enjoy being with them. But it's not wrong to have some "adult time" each day. It's perfectly normal and OK.
I think Turbo already covered the point I was going to make, but I'll continue anyways. I have three children 5 and under, and I take care of them all day pretty much on my own. (My husband has two jobs and an internet comic book store). Once a week, on a Friday or Saturday night, my husband will mind the store while I go out for one or two hours with my best friend, after I put my children to sleep. It's my "scheduled" break from my kids. Every once in awhile my husband and I will go to the movies, or dinner, but if we have a child under one year old, they almost always come with us. The way I see it is you have plenty of time for "alone time" when your children are older, and able to stay with a babysitter, or family member for longer amounts of time. And if you're referring to sex, you have all these "unplanned" children, it looks like you're able to make plenty of time for it.
I think that sending your child away from you for hours and hours everyday is not only selfish, it's also harmful to your child and their healthy development.